Identifying Ego In Your Psychic Messaging
Everyone’s got an ego.
Here’s how to identify it to truly connect and the one phrase I use to reground myself when ego creeps in.
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What Is Ego?
Ego is what we know it to be- your mind working it’s way to beat the competition. It tells you you are worthy, that you are right and that you are better than others. It’s a piece of ourselves that we’ve developed in order to survive in our social lives.
Ego is a part of all of us and serves us to get ‘our share’. This helps us to eat, be clothed, have shelter.
Ego alongside the higher self, however, is a constant battle for the soul.
Soul Work Vs. The Ego
Developing the soul abilities starts with having the ego to think that you are special enough to be psychic, mediumistic, intuitive. Our society believes that you have to be special to have these skills. I believe that we all have these soul abilities as a birth rite but, society isn’t there yet.
Ego instinctually resides in our learning of the soul abilities but, its presence infiltrates your development in ways that hinder your results. It creeps in when you twist logic into a message to have it make logical sense or when you feel pressured to please a sitter.
There are examples I will give that will identify ways that ego will crop up into your practice. I will also give examples of how you may perceive an event which shows your ego at work even if you didn’t notice it.
Have solace that once you can identify when it happens or notice your own patterns, you have a choice in letting go of that automatic ego we get so used to. Letting go of its influence will actually free you of extra steps you automatically include in your process and allow you to have quicker, more accurate interpretations of the incoming messaging.
It is an eternal fight of calming the ego and allowing your heart to open. Honestly, it’s never done battling but, it can be something you are aware of to help build integrity, confidence and selfless intentions into your process.
And, it does get easier to let it go.
Ways That Your Ego Gets In the Way With Your Psychic and other Soul Abilities
There are a number of ways that ego effs with your psychic/soul abilities development. Frankly, whatever ego is doing in your process it is just overcomplicating the process. Here’s how ego takes part in your development.
It Assumes
It Second Guess
It fills in the blanks. It plays on the odds and closes out possibilities to narrow down probability.
It doubts the message, the ability and the receiver.
It Wants to Please
It Has Ulterior Motive
The ego wants to show your worth. As a receiver and interpretter, your message is what is valued. If you can’t please the client with your value, then what are you good for?
If there is anything about soul work that you need to understand it’s that feeding the ego using your soul abilities is not going to help your cause, whatever it may be. Intention must be driven by true higher energy emotions- love, compassion, gratitude. Working to inflate the ego (to impress, to hold power, or manipulate), is of lower vibration energies. Operating like this will bring that same energy back. Not good for you. Or me, so stop making us medium/psychic/intuitives look bad, yo.
Ways to Know When Ego Is Blocking You
Self-doubt creeps in and just keeps closer
You’re mulling on a message for too long
You get a message and then start over analyzing it. Think of messages like a hot iron, tap it to make sure it’s ready but don’t hold onto it because you’ll get burned. Overanalyzing is doubting your abilities and this is when self-doubt overcomplicates a reading. The great thing about the hot iron example is the timing of slappin’ the iron is right on with how messages come in- a flash. Go with that, interpret, then move on.
There comes a point, especially during a reading and someone is sitting in front of you, when you just can’t get messaging right. You start getting down on yourself, you start beating yourself up and get distracted from your purpose in the moment. If this doesn’t happen to you then good on you but, for the rest of us, it’s perfectly natural to feel like your failing. Do know, this is when you need to reground and redirect outside of the ego, into your heart. Or stop the messaging and say, ‘Maybe another time’.
You are upset after a reading
You can’t accept your psychic/soul ability
Now, this could have to do with not preparing properly for a reading (you know, taking on those negative emotions without realizing) but, this could also be due to how a reading went. If that’s the case, then:
You are experiencing what all psychics/mediums/intuitives/healers experience, and
You are serving yourself responsible for ‘what went wrong’ in the reading.
I’m assuming (there’s my ego coming in) that your intentions of gaining psychic/ soul abilities development are rooted in universal connection, a deeper meaning and a genuine want in understanding what your skills are. If that’s the case, then accept that your responsibility lies only with learning and understanding. Your responsibility is not performing perfection. That should not be expected, even if you believe you should be perfect. Trust me, I get it. Perfection is what is expected of us, but perfection for a human being is not natural. Be patient, hang in there, you’ll get your groove and it will be worth the effort.
Yeah, I said it. You have it but, you’re not allowing yourself to believe it’s for real. I’ve been there.
It took me several incredible experiences to finally give in to believing in such a ‘woo woo’ thing as psychic abilities. I had a time where I was embarrassed to talk about it or even say it to myself. Then, I realized I was letting other people’s supposed judgement be my problem. Once I pondered this and realized I was afraid of what other people thought about ‘psychic stuff’, Punk Rock Sarah (and I do love punk rock) took over and slapped my ego out of it. Fear comes from ego. Again, not helping my mission, so, yeah.
What your egoic self needs to know about the soul self is that there’s a lot of responsibility, expectations, and pressure that it puts on your soul self that it shouldn’t.
Maybe your ego needs to chill.
Maybe your ego needs to know what’s what.
Maybe the ego needs to understand a few things about your soul self when it comes to staying true to yourself and not bend to what others think.
You know, the truth vs.……………………………….
Punk Rock Break
I think it’s time for a punk rock break. Maybe this will help slap the ego out of you.
Anyway.
How I Stop The Ego
Here’s what I say to myself when doubt creeps in or I feel like I’m trying too hard…
“It’s not about me.”
This phrase allows me to refocus, maybe reground my intentions while meditating or doing a reading. I’m observing not judging. I’m receiving not creating.
Without recognizing ego in your self, your messaging is not true to what is being received. Also, adding your own ‘crap’ into the mix just makes things more complicated.
Letting go of ego’s influence is allowing for true messages to be received and perceived.
Exercise: Identify Your Ego Blocks
People Pleasing
Can’t Be Wrong
You Don’t Believe People When They Say You’re Right
Are you apt to people pleasing? Are you fond of saying ‘yes’ to just about any request of you that comes your way? If you are, then know that you will try to give messages if there simply is not something there. Understand that sometimes your body may not be receiving well that day or the person you are reading isn’t open enough. Obviously, it’s inconvenient, but that is a part of development and, honestly, a part of being a human being.
Are you scared of being wrong? Always need results? Then, you gotta get over that because, this is when you fill in blanks, add to the messaging that was not presented. In other words, you’re lying. Don’t lie. There’s no integrity there and that is your ego utilizing your abilities for ulterior motives.
Still aren’t convinced you have psychic or other soul abilities… even though you had that premonition in a dream, heard that phrase in your head before that guy said it, and felt sick when others were sick, but ended up feeling better after you got away from them? That’s your doubt or your fear of others’ judgements. Go up to the ‘Punk Rock Break’, I think you need some ego-slapping.
